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Divorce can be quite a stressful event, especially in families with children. There are many issues to be settled such as child custody, division of martial property and assets as well as maintenance rights. Post-divorce stress can be even more for the partner who feels short-changed by the entire process. But instead of grinding your teeth and carrying your stress around with you for months and years, there are many practical things that you can do to forget whatever has happened and bring your life back on track.

 

<b>See the World</b>

 

Travelling is a great antidote to stress and depression. Dragging yourself out of your fox hole and journeying to distant places relaxes the mind tremendously as you realise how big the world actually is and how insignificant you and your problems are in the larger scheme of the universe.

 

There are hundreds of civilisations spread across many continents inhabited by over 6 billion people. As you travel to distant places, you experience new cuisine, lifestyle, culture and sights and sounds, and come back home refreshed with pleasant memories. Travelling at leisure is a great stress-reliever.

 

Remember – on one’s death bed, no person ever wished he or she had worked harder in life or worried more about things. They all wish they had just enjoyed a little more. Exploring the world enables you to put your day-to-day troubles in correct perspective and gather strength to get over them and move on in life.

 

<b>Enter a New Relationship</b>

 

The best way to forget your bad divorce is to start a new romantic relationship as soon as possible. This has many benefits. It distracts you from negative feelings about the past as you get something else to think over and look forward to.

 

From the new partner, you get the much-needed intimacy, support and affection that act like a balm on your emotional wounds. You can plan outings with him or her to elevate your moods and come out of all the stress and depression that you are going through.

 

<b>Join Clubs and Take up New Hobbies</b>

 

If you are really stressed out, the trick is not to sit at home and think about it. Rather expand your social circle and take up some activity. You can join the neighbourhood sports club and do some vigorous exercise such as tennis or swimming to shake out all the toxic feelings that have been accumulating inside you.

 

Taking up a new pastime – such as listening to music, gardening, bird watching, clay modelling – distracts your mind and soothes your frayed nerves. You can also take part in some group activities such as charity work to relieve your stress and get a feeling of contributing something meaningful to the world.

 

<b>Yoga and Meditation</b>

 

Yoga, the ancient Indian tradition of physical and mental exercises, has been proved in research after research as a great stress-reliever. It centres you within your being, relaxes your muscles and spews stress such as no other exercise. It can be done by anyone – man, woman or child – as it is a gentle, non-competitive exercise regimen performed alone.

 

Meditation is the higher stage of Yoga than physical postures and leads to increased concentration and calmness of mind. Even a 15 minute session of yoga – postures, breathing exercise or meditation – can do wonders for your mental poise.

 

<b>Party Around</b>

 

Socializing is a great way to reduce stress. You should make a conscious effort to organize and attend parties with your friends or arrange weekend outings for dining out or watching a movie. Spending some quality time that includes idle banter and laughter is a sure-shot stress-reliever. It can make you feel light-headed for days and reduce all the stress and tension that you have been experiencing.

 

<b>Look to the Future, not the Past</b>

 

After your divorce, make it a point to always look ahead into the future and not dwell on the past. Thinking over and over again about the divorce proceedings and what happened leads to a lot of stress and uneasiness. You should always think of what you can do with the days ahead and concentrate on planning your next moves rather than cursing your spouse for breaking the family.

 

<b>Take Professional Counselling </b>

 

If nothing else works, take the help of a professional counsellor. These are trained experts who have deep insights into human psychology. They help you come to terms with your loss or anxiety by talking things over with you and giving you advice that will get you out of the hole you have dug yourself into.